The Father Wound & Mother Wound
The Father Wound and The Mother Wound
Are you still carrying these two wounds?
Our parents play a significant role in shaping our lives, but more often than not, wounds can emerge from those relationships. The Father Wound can stem from absent or emotionally unavailable fathers, while the Mother Wound can arise from unmet needs, lack of nurturing or emotional abuse. These wounds affect our self-esteem, relationships and overall well-being.
By healing these wounds, it can unlock our true potential, open the doors to happiness and fulfillment and empower us to create healthier connections with men and women in our life.
The Father Wound
The father wound refers to a psychological and emotional wound that can result from a problematic or absent relationship with one's father or father figure during childhood. It can arise from various factors, such as physical or emotional absence, abuse, neglect or an inability of the father to fulfill the child's emotional needs.
The father wound often manifests as a deep-rooted sense of abandonment, rejection, or unresolved issues that can impact an individual's self-esteem, relationships and overall well-being throughout their life. It can cause a range of emotional challenges, such as feelings of unworthiness, a fear of intimacy, difficulty trusting others and an ongoing search for validation and approval.
This wound can affect individuals of any gender, as it is not limited to those who identify as male. The impact of the father wound can vary from person to person, influenced by factors such as the severity and duration of the father's absence or the quality of the relationship when present.
The Mother Wound
The mother wound refers to the impact of a strained or challenging relationship with one's mother. It recognizes that the bond between a mother and child plays a crucial role in shaping an individual's emotional, psychological, and relational development.
The mother wound stems from various factors, such as neglect, abandonment, emotional or physical abuse, enmeshment, unmet needs, or unrealistic expectations. These experiences can cause deep emotional pain, insecurities and unresolved issues that can affect a person's self-esteem, relationships and overall well-being.
Any individuals with a mother wound may struggle with feelings of unworthiness, fear of rejection, difficulty establishing healthy boundaries, challenges in trusting others, and a sense of emptiness or longing for maternal nurturing. The impact of the mother wound can extend into adulthood, influencing one's ability to form and maintain healthy relationships, pursue personal goals and experience self-fulfillment.
BENEFITS OF HEALING THE FATHER WOUND
1. Improved self-esteem and self-worth: A father's absence or negative influence can lead to feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem. Healing the father wound can help us develop a stronger sense of self-worth and cultivate a healthier self-image.
2. Greater emotional well-being: Unresolved father wounds can contribute to emotional distress, such as depression, anxiety, anger, or resentment. By addressing these wounds, we can experience greater emotional well-being, finding relief from these negative emotions and establishing healthier coping mechanisms.
3. Relationship improvement: Healing the father wound can positively impact our ability to form and maintain healthy relationships. It can help break patterns of dysfunctional behavior, improve communication skills, and foster healthier connections with others.
4. Personal growth and empowerment: Resolving the father wound allows us to explore our own potential and pursue personal growth. It can provide a foundation for self-discovery, empowerment, and the development of our unique identities.
5. Breaking generational cycles: Unresolved father wounds can be passed down through generations, creating a cycle of dysfunction. By addressing and healing these wounds, we can prevent the perpetuation of negative patterns, offering our own children a healthier upbringing and a chance to break free from the cycle.
6. Improved parenting skills: Healing the father wound can enhance our ability to become a better parent. By gaining insight into our own experiences, we can develop more empathetic and compassionate parenting approaches, thereby creating a healthier and more nurturing environment for our own children.
7. Increased resilience: Healing the father wound can contribute to greater emotional resilience and the ability to bounce back from adversity. It provides us with a solid foundation of self-understanding and self-acceptance, which can help us navigate life's challenges with more strength and confidence.
BENEFITS OF HEALING THE MOTHER WOUND
1. Improved self-awareness and personal growth: Exploring and healing the mother wound allows us to gain a deeper understanding of ourselves, our emotions, and our patterns of behavior. It can bring clarity to unresolved issues, traumas, and emotional wounds, fostering personal growth and self-awareness.
2. Healthier relationships: Healing the mother wound can positively impact all relationships, not just the one with our mother. It can lead to healthier dynamics, enhanced communication, and increased empathy and compassion in relationships with romantic partners, friends, and even our own children.
3. Breaking generational patterns: Often, the mother wound is passed down through generations, perpetuating unhealthy relationship dynamics and unresolved emotional pain. By healing the mother wound, we have the opportunity to break these patterns, fostering healthier relationships within our family and preventing the transmission of unresolved pain to future generations.
4. Enhance emotional well-being: Unresolved mother wounds can contribute to a range of emotional challenges such as low self-esteem, self-doubt, anxiety, depression, and difficulties with trust and intimacy. Healing the mother wound can bring about emotional healing, allowing us to experience greater joy, fulfillment, and overall well-being.
5. Reclaiming personal power: The mother wound can impact our sense of personal power, and identity. By healing the wounds, we can reclaim our power, establish healthy boundaries, and develop a stronger sense of self.
6. Enable forgiveness and compassion: Through the healing process, we can cultivate forgiveness and compassion, both towards ourselves and our mothers, fostering emotional liberation and inner peace.
How I Discovered My First Ever Father Wound
It happened on the final day of a transformational seminar back in 2011. Earlier that day, I was upset at my husband. As I listened to the speaker on the stage, it finally occurred to me the reason behind my upset.
It had to do with the belief that I had about my father divorcing my mother. I thought when he divorced her, it meant he didn't love her anymore and therefore he also didn't love me. So I grew up with the belief that my father didn't love me.
Since I've been married, whenever I got upset at my husband, I felt that he didn't love me which then turned into an internal drama that cause further pain and suffering due to unhealed mental illness as well as childhood trauma.
Once I accepted that the divorce wasn't about me and it had nothing to do with me, I was able to let go of the belief that my father didn't love me. I forgave my father for divorcing my mother and my younger self for creating that belief.
From there onwards, my relationship with my husband changed. Our marriage was no longer strained. I finally experienced peace and harmony in our marriage. My husband often jokes that after the seminar he had a new wife.
I had mended my relationship with my father and then I was also able to enroll my sisters to forgive him and accept him and his new family into our lives (which was not an easy task. It took me months but I managed to do it).
I became less angry, I was able to be patient (a trait that I didn't have much before) and I started to have self-awareness. Whenever I got triggered, I have since been able to figure out the source of the trigger and resolve it. It was a slow process but as I kept on practicing resolving what triggers me, the process became faster and it certainly helped me to get to know myself better. I began to learn what I value most and I started to prioritize my own happiness.
I didn't know what to expect when I healed my first father wound. And to be honest, I thought that I was going to hate my father forever for divorcing my mother.
After I healed my first father wound, a whole new world opened up for me that I thought was never possible.
I got back my father after two decades of anger and hatred. I saved my own marriage from falling apart. I have a much happier husband who loves me even more as I further work to heal myself and the wounds that I carry. My mental health improved significantly and I became a happier person. I found my inner power and I claimed it. Since then, I have had the courage to do what makes me happy and fulfilled regardless of what other people think.
How I Discovered My First Ever Mother Wound
For the life of me, I didn't know why I was plagued with self-hatred. It became apparent when I was depressed more than a decade ago. It made me suicidal too.
I remember during my depression, I told my husband that I didn't want to live anymore. I cried my heart out and said it would be better if I was dead. At that time I didn't know anything about mental illness and mental health. All I knew was that I felt all alone in my suffering. Throughout this time I was experiencing self-hatred and being suicidal on and off for years.
Then one day I decided enough was enough and it was time to heal the self-hatred once and for all. During the process, I was surprised to find out where I got it from. It was from my mother when she was pregnant with me. She might have experienced an intense hatred sometime during her pregnancy. And with me in her womb, I thought her hatred must have been because of me and therefore I should hate myself. That realization truly opened up my eyes. I decided to let go and then I felt such a huge relief.
I was no longer burdened by self-hatred and suicidal thoughts. I became less harsh on myself and I was able to forgive myself easily. I could feel compassion for myself and my late mother. (Another trait that I didn't have much before). I noticed that it was easier to love myself too.
I also realized that my existence matters. If it didn't and if the Universe didn't want me here, I wouldn't be here. I was in awe that the Universe has a spot for me here and that spot was always meant for me. And I took it to mean that I matter, no matter how small and insignificant I am in this Universe. That realization had a huge impact on me. It completely changed me. I then chose to live my life and I stopped thinking about wanting to end it.
I broke down in tears after I truly got that the Universe loves me. I felt so deeply loved and that allowed me to love myself unconditionally. I felt so much love coming my way and I was able to rewire myself to accept love fully without deflecting it or pushing it away.
My relationship with myself changed after I healed this mother wound. My thoughts were so used to swimming in the pool of negativity but since then my mind was in a healthier state. My thoughts were either positive or neutral most of the time. I couldn't believe that was possible for me.
My relationship with God completely changed too. I used to believe that God didn't love me and that I was unworthy of love and being loved. Now, I don't doubt God's love for me and I know that I am worthy of love. His love for me gave me so much strength and perseverance to go through life and its challenges.
I became kinder to myself, I started to practice self-forgiveness and I learned to stop punishing myself whenever I made mistakes. I became a new person again. A better human that is capable of loving, forgiving and having compassion for myself.
Throughout my life, I only knew and was very familiar with having incessant negative thoughts, self-talk and limiting beliefs. There was no room for positive thoughts in my mind. I thought I was forever stuck. I honestly believe that there was no way out of the hell that was in my head.
I had lived most of my life without knowing and experiencing what it felt like to genuinely love myself. I thought it was just a concept that I never get to experience in this lifetime. I am glad that I was wrong. I am grateful that self-love was possible for me as a result of healing this wound.
I can't deny the power of healing our father and mother wounds. Healing these wounds can truly open doors to new possibilities. I have experienced them over and over whenever I heal old wounds. As a result, I literally become a new person minus the old excess baggage. I come away with a better understanding, a wider perspective and more wiser too.
We will go through a total of four rounds of the clearing the father and mother wounds. We will clear the energy of the father/mother wounds that come up from the group during the session. We will alternate between the clearing of the father and mother wound. After each clearing session, there will be a break for a week.
Session 1 - Friday, July 7 - Clearing the father wound
Session 2 - Friday, July 14 - Clearing the mother wound
Session 3 - Friday, July 21 - Clearing the father wound
Session 4 - Friday, July 28 - Clearing the mother wound
Session 5 - Friday, August 4 - Clearing the father wound
Session 6 - Friday, August 11 - Clearing the mother wound
Session 7 - Friday, August 18 - Clearing the father wound
Session 8 - Friday, August 25 - Clearing the mother wound
The clearing will be done remotely on the dates stated above from 9 am to 9.30 am BNT. The group will receive feedback (and/or suggestions) on what has transpired during each session.
Each participant will receive an additional energetic support: Healing Deep Emotional Scars throughout the duration of the clearing at no additional cost.
This healing will further aid the clearing of the father and mother wounds.
HEALING DEEP EMOTIONAL SCARS
Having deep emotional scars can prevent us from living our best life. These scars affect every aspect of our lives. They affect our mind and emotions, our sense of worth, our self-esteem, our relationships, our connection to God or the Universe and the list goes on and on.
When we healed these scars, they are still there but we are no longer affected by them. Hence, the choices that we make moving forward aren’t coming from the space of lack, fear, anger or worry. Instead, they come from the space of joy, love, faith or compassion.
Please submit a full length photo of yourself with a space above your head and below your feet.
Do not wear sunglasses or a cap/hat.
Make sure you are the only person in the photo.
Participant can choose to receive either 2 rounds of the clearing (OPTION A) or the full 4 rounds of the clearing (OPTION B).
OPTION A will start and end in July.
Participant will receive 4 clearing sessions and will be placed in the energetic container to heal deep emotional scars for one month.
OPTION B will start in July and end in August.
Participant will receive 8 clearing sessions and will be placed in the energetic container to heal deep emotional scars for two months.
WHO IS THIS FOR?
This healing is for the following:
Those who grew up with an emotionally distant father or a father that failed to provide the love and support that they needed.
Those who experienced an unhealthy or absent relationship with one's father or father figure.
Those who grew up with a lack of emotional support and nurture from one's mother.
Those who experienced emotional pain or trauma in their relationship with their mother or mother figure.
Those who experienced a strained or dysfunctional relationship with one's father or mother (figures).
Those who experience neglect, rejection, inadequacy, abandonment, emotional unavailability or abuse from one's father or mother.
Those who find themselves carrying unresolved emotions, deep-seated patterns or negative beliefs that originated from their early experiences with their father and/or mother.
ARE YOU READY TO HEAL THESE WOUNDS AND HEAL YOURSELF IN THE PROCESS?
YES, I AM READY
*Special Offer valid only until June 30th by 6 pm BNT
Q: How can I receive maximum benefits from this healing? A: Do the following. Be in a quiet space for at least 30 minutes. Before the session starts, set your intention to receive healing. During the session, gently focus on receiving healing. If you mind wanders, gently bring back your attention to receiving. If you fall asleep, that's perfectly fine.
Q: What should I do during the session? A: Ideally sit in meditation with open hands. Or you can just sit and relaxed for 30 minutes or you can lay down. DO NOT operate heavy machinery or drive a car at this time.
Q: What if I am busy at the time of the session? A: Set your intention to receive before the start of the clearing. Then, once you are available, find time during the day or night and connect to the clearing session. If you are energetically sensitive, you will feel the clearing.
Q: How do I know if this healing is for me? A: Ask and check with yourself if this healing is for you. If you are unsure about receiving healing from us, we recommend you book one remote healing session (from our services page) and feel it for yourself.
Q: What do you require for me to participate in this healing? A: 1. Your consent 2. A full length picture of you with spaces above the head and below the feet. Do not wear sunglasses or a hat. Make sure you are the only one in the photo and no one else. Please submit your photo as soon as you signed up for this healing. Send your photo to powerfullyblissful(at)gmail(dot)com
Q: What is the time in other time zones? A: You can refer to the link below.
Q: What is your refund/cancellation policy? A: All sales are final. There is no refund. There is no cancellations. Sessions proceed as schedule.